9:50 a.m. Guangzhou (Monday) Quick post this a.m. Meiying woke up happy for the first time. Thank God! To make things clear, she hasn't spoken to her foster family since Friday morning. When I say that she's tried calling, just understand that the outside calls have been blocked by the front desk, so she isn't actually speaking to them. Make sense?
Jean, would I have done anything different w/ regard to calling foster parents? Definitely, I would have set a limit right up front. I would've had the guide tell her she could call a set number of times and at a specific time (boundaries and expectations). Then I would've made it clear that there was a last call. You live and learn. I do think it was a battle that we would've endured no matter what though, yes. I think it will be easier on your girls when you're in China because they are sisters, both leaving the foster parents together. It'll be alright.
I look around at all these babies and toddlers being adopted and while this was really, really hard for several days and I missed the connection you feel with a baby who "needs you", I am so happy to be doing this w/ a child who can play, who is self-sufficient, no diapers, no naps, no fear that they're sick and can't tell you, etc. I am also so happy to see Meiying playing and I mean, appropriately playing, with dolls, games, toys, coloring. Having Eliza's autism dianosis, we missed out on her being able to do so many of these things. Still, I do miss the quiet and snuggly Eliza terribly! Especially yesterday when Meiying was on such a sugar-hyped up high! LOL It's going to be a fun balance; I think my life will definitely be more balanced now as a mom to my kids. I would definitely recommend an older child adoption. I'm sorry if my blog scared some of you waiting parents. You'll get thru it; if I could do (alone), you can do it!
I'll post again tonight...continued prayer requests for another good day.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Posted by The Ordinary Horse at 9:01 PM