Sunday, September 27, 2009

Happy girl

9:50 a.m. Guangzhou (Monday) Quick post this a.m.  Meiying woke up happy for the first time.  Thank God!  To make things clear, she hasn't spoken to her foster family since Friday morning.  When I say that she's tried calling, just understand that the outside calls have been blocked by the front desk, so she isn't actually speaking to them.  Make sense?
Jean, would I have done anything different w/ regard to calling foster parents?  Definitely, I would have set a limit right up front.  I would've had the guide tell her she could call a set number of times and at a specific time (boundaries and expectations).  Then I would've made it clear that there was a last call.  You live and learn.  I do think it was a battle that we would've endured no matter what though, yes.  I think it will be easier on your girls when you're in China because they are sisters, both leaving the foster parents together.  It'll be alright.
I look around at all these babies and toddlers being adopted and while this was really, really hard for several days and I missed the connection you feel with a baby who "needs you", I am so happy to be doing this w/ a child who can play, who is self-sufficient, no diapers, no naps, no fear that they're sick and can't tell you, etc.  I am also so happy to see Meiying playing and I mean, appropriately playing, with dolls, games, toys, coloring.  Having Eliza's autism dianosis, we missed out on her being able to do so many of these things.  Still, I do miss the quiet and snuggly Eliza terribly!  Especially yesterday when Meiying was on such a sugar-hyped up high!  LOL  It's going to be a fun balance; I think my life will definitely be more balanced now as a mom to my kids.  I would definitely recommend an older child adoption.  I'm sorry if my blog scared some of you waiting parents.  You'll get thru it; if I could do (alone), you can do it!
I'll post again tonight...continued prayer requests for another good day.


Jennifer O'Cain said...

Hi, I just discovered your blog through Jean. I just wanted to say hi and give you words of encouragement. We are just home (4months) with our 7 yr old daughter. She out right rejected us in China too. Things improved greatly once she sensed we were off China soil, she knew we were all she had and we had,had many conversations with her through our guide about how we were never going to leave her, etc. Things have been slow but she is super attached to me and still making progress with daddy. I will be praying for you and your daughter.

Jennifer O.

jan said...

hi! new follower to you.... it has been wonderful following your journey..

you already answered one question for me in your post tonite -- to jean about calling foster parents. thank you :)

another question -- we are in the process of adopting our third daughter from asia (2 china, 1 vietnam).... this time we are adopting an older girl. she turns 11 in a week and livs in a foster home. i noticed you said your daughter came straight from the foster home to you. if we can give input to your agency, would you recommend requesting her be transferred back to the orphanage before being adopted for a couple of weeks or leaving her in the foster home until you meet her? thoughts on that?

thanks for allowing us to learn from your experiences. God will keep His hand upon you. in Him, jan :)

Truly Blessed said...

WOO HOOO!!!!!! What a great post! SO glad things are going better for you, and so glad that Meiying has apparently turned a corner. You're in the home stretch now, only a few more days until you're home, on your turf and with your husband and sweet Eliza both of whom I know misses you so much.

You can make it! Have a fantastic day today with your beautiful flower.

Elizabeth, David, Katie, &Chloe said...

That is great that she is doing much better. I knew it would get better.