tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post4761684498478757336..comments2020-01-07T06:01:08.159-05:00Comments on Forever Sisters; Forever Family: Feeling like her mother and baby stepsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-6235288639549134912009-09-27T01:40:31.824-04:002009-09-27T01:40:31.824-04:00Sarah, I am Karen, Kelly/Truly Blessed's sist...Sarah, I am Karen, Kelly/Truly Blessed's sister. I've been reading your blog for the past week, and posted your situation on my blog's Prayer Request list, but haven't commented before. <br /><br />You have my admiration. It sounds like you are going though the worst possible adoption scenario there is, and you are doing it alone. I went with Kelly and her family for both of their adoptions in case there were difficulties, but they both went relatively smoothly. <br /><br />I have no children, so I have no first hand knowledge to impart on attachment, but God told us that nothing is greater than Love, so keep showing Meiying that you love her and that you are in it for the long haul. <br /><br />In addition to true grieving for what she is loosing, I get the feeling that she is also testing you to see if you will give up and leave her too. I can tell from your posts that you are exhausted. Keep praying and know that people all over are praying for you both, too.k1https://www.blogger.com/profile/12702140651334372462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-14470834738038472382009-09-26T23:56:36.215-04:002009-09-26T23:56:36.215-04:00Sarah-
So glad this was a better day. I am very ex...Sarah-<br />So glad this was a better day. I am very excited for you and Ava Meiying to get home! Has the guide told her her English name yet? She will probably say know but at least she will know what it is and you can call her that later at home.<br /><br />It's great that you hooked up with Leiba! I bet it feels so good to hook up with another adult! Especially someone that is positive! <br /><br />Adopting this age is such a challenge but it is so cool! Honestly things will all fall into place and she (Ava) will be a delightful addition to your family!<br /><br />I love following your blog!! I love your honesty and you sense of humor!!<br /><br />I actually found it to be a personal challenge to conquer (so to speak) an adoptee at this age. I would say to myself "I will win... you will love me". I can definitely say I have won her heart! She is so my little girl and I am her Momma!! She adores me now and she didn't even remotely like me in China!<br /><br />Looking forward to waking up to another post from you! God or bad keep sharing! You are getting me ready for my trip to China- I'll have two gieiving daughters that have come from a foster home- yikes!Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00219821176198096628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-17239217225870198052009-09-26T21:52:10.807-04:002009-09-26T21:52:10.807-04:00Sarah,
I'm so sorry you've been having a t...Sarah,<br />I'm so sorry you've been having a tough time with Meiying. You are so strong and are definitely doing the right thing with setting limits, acknowledging her grief, and moving at her speed. I've found that having a child with autism definitely helps with the initial adoption stages. I know your experience now is so different than adopting a toddler, but I still think its got to be helpful - after all kids with autism are somewhat attachment impaired. <br /><br />While I haven't been commenting frequently I have been thinking of you and will continue to do so.<br /><br />I hope things start looking up a bit!<br /><br />RachelRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02572915658085445094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-45713815646472972162009-09-26T17:28:46.095-04:002009-09-26T17:28:46.095-04:00Oh,
Sarah...
I'm reading your posts on my ce...Oh, <br />Sarah...<br /><br />I'm reading your posts on my cell phone and I'm crying for you and Meiying and praying for you, too.<br /><br />You're going to come through these two weeks a stronger woman than when you started and I am praying that your faith and belief is stronger, too.<br /><br />(((Hugs))) friend.<br /><br />Love - Tami (and family)Tamihttp://gatheringpeeps.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-5990530864538426682009-09-26T16:24:12.211-04:002009-09-26T16:24:12.211-04:00You are one tough cookie!! I'm Nicole mother o...You are one tough cookie!! I'm Nicole mother of two soon three from China. I will have to say your blog is freaking me out a little. Zhi Kang will be five around the time he joins our family....a little fear. McKenna is five and Tommy almost four.<br /><br />Hang tough things will be a lot differnet when you get back to the States. <br />You are both in my familes prayers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-44602773823621651262009-09-26T15:59:28.598-04:002009-09-26T15:59:28.598-04:00Hi Sar, I've been catching up on your blogs th...Hi Sar, I've been catching up on your blogs these last few days, reading whenever i get the chance. Especially on my iphone which is so small! I'm finally all caught up. I've been thinking of you so much over there. What an idiot I am! I forgot about your blog,I kept looking for emails! Listen, hang in there. You're alone and that makes it so much harder. As you said, she's a typical 7 year old. She's testing boundaries and you and she sounds ADORABLE and wicked smart. She's also one of the luckiest people in the world to have you as her mom. Your giving her so much and going to change her life to something she can't even begin to imagine right now. So no more guilt and feeling sorry for her past life and all she's endured. It's horrible but it's done. It's behind her. Her life changed for the better the minute she met you. She doesn't know it yet but you do. That's something to remember through the tough times.<br /><br />Love you,Sar.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02835642865532707270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-63325594043269952722009-09-26T10:03:52.355-04:002009-09-26T10:03:52.355-04:00You're great! You are doing great!!! Expect ...You're great! You are doing great!!! Expect her to keep testing you when you get home. Keep doing what you need to do, you will win her. She is going to be your girl, but it may take months. Take good care of your self. Maybe go get a message or something nice. Get your nails done or hair done. Buy your self a special gift. You deserve something very good! You are a brave and courageous mom doing a very hard job. I know we don’t know each other, but I’m proud of you.Catching Butterflies 3https://www.blogger.com/profile/05072416791438168411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-56750457756686956832009-09-26T09:49:09.155-04:002009-09-26T09:49:09.155-04:00It seems things are better today. It is quite amaz...It seems things are better today. It is quite amazing how strong the girls can be after all they have been put through. Chloe never cried until one day after months of being home we told her please cry it is okay. She told us no it is not okay to cry. She had never showed her emotions in China. Finally she had a melt down and since then she will cry when she needs to. Also I want to comment on the part of the locals. We did get good signs from some locals but others would look and if looks could kill we were in trouble. The most touching story was we visited a village in Nanning. There was a 96 year old man that stood up as we passed by. He had no teeth left and was very thin. He ask us to come up to him so we all did. He begin to look at all of us in the group and talk. Our guide told us that he wanted each of us to know that he appreciated what we have done for these girls. He said that he was so happy for them and loved us for taking them. That was so touching coming from him. I wish you the best and it will take lots of time for her to completely open up to you but it will happen.<br />ElizabethElizabeth, David, Katie, &Chloehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04198638614910440788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-14841581059365173672009-09-26T08:57:48.069-04:002009-09-26T08:57:48.069-04:00Hi this is my first time visiting your blog. Prayi...Hi this is my first time visiting your blog. Praying for you and your new daughter!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-82745756016124925152009-09-26T08:48:34.422-04:002009-09-26T08:48:34.422-04:00Oh Sarah! Sounds like a "perfect" day f...Oh Sarah! Sounds like a "perfect" day finding that other mom, she sounds perfect! You are very right in all you say in your post! You sound in a much better head/emotional space, so it is so much easier to "detach" from the behaviour and keep things/feelings in perspective. Meiying is processing and greiving and it will take time but you are on the road! It's a great sign she is starting to try and speak english!!! Whoohoo!!! (BIG HUGS from across the pond!)<br /><br />Off to mandarin school with Hannah!McKayGreenFamilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04006698798626410538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-6914687224918334512009-09-26T08:40:52.548-04:002009-09-26T08:40:52.548-04:00Whew, I'm breathing a sigh of relief along wit...Whew, I'm breathing a sigh of relief along with you, it sounds like today was much more do-able for you. I can see that things are not going as smoothly as you wish, but we're talking baby steps and you're definitely making those! I'm just so proud of you, Sarah, for doing this alone. Thank God you have some great people on your side there -- people to talk with and share your frustrations with you, and to help you out with the language barrier. I would think that is the worst part of it all.<br /><br />Hey, I'm going to find someone who adopted an older child (the mom's name is Starla) and give her a link to your blog. I know her daughter had some of the same issues while they were in China and I think she could offer you some practical suggestions. Hope that's okay.<br /><br />Please know that you and Meiying are never far from our thoughts,and definitely in our prayers continuously. <br /><br />Have a restful night - try to sleep deeply!<br /><br />KellyTruly Blessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14038333888405690505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-703078761835658581.post-58372199484882486632009-09-26T08:37:25.148-04:002009-09-26T08:37:25.148-04:00HI Sarah,
I am so happy to read that things are ge...HI Sarah,<br />I am so happy to read that things are getting better! I was really worried for you over the past week. I would read your blog every morning at work and cry at my desk. I even found out that Judy had Derek, Allie, and Eliza for dinner one night. And I went over, perched on one of the stools while they were all eating dessert (George's raspberry ice cream) and I asked all sort of questions about you since I knew he could actually see you via skype. Just a few more days and you'll be back home! Keep strong! you are doing an excellent job!! Say some prayers or talk to God when you feel yourself faultering or need a boost. You are in my thoughts and prayers - TarraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com